One of the biggest lines feminists tell so mush is that women are always taught to do something, this "something" being what feminists don't like females to do because it goes against their credo, feminists like to portray that women are victims of their own choice that an external socioeconomic force make them do it, patriarch, pop culture, internet, men, companies, and in this last rest the biggest of all of them, beauty products companies, you like beauty? we all do, but first, what is beauty for you? your definition of beauty is your freedom, is your personal choice, but what happen when nature interpose between what your consider beauty and you? what do you do when you want others to accept your standard of beauty but they don't?
Jessica Valenti wrote an article for Thenation, The Upside of Ugly, describing the problem of "today standard" of beauty and the subsequent donation of 40K from a Foundation to a girl for not other reason that she was bullied at school for her look.
But this is the problem with teaching young women that the key to happiness and success is
self-esteem.There is not such thing as teaching young women that the key to happiness and success is is self-stem, what we have is a lack of control over young women's behavior helped by broken families and a generation of fatherless children, if someone is teaching young women that the key to happiness and success is self-stem is single mothers helped by family courts, we have a generation of young women with same behavior drunk people had decades ago.
Feminists helped to remove the control, taking fathers away the families and punish them if they try to have authority within it, when there is not mentor and control young women are not being teached, they are learning from countless resources without anyone to guide them.Young women are being teached that the key to happiness and success is self-esteem from their own mothers OR they have themselves to blame. But for Valenti this two options leave any outside force and men without guilt at all and young women as, well, guilty.
We should tell girls the truth: “Beautiful” is bullshit, a standard created to make women into good consumers, too busy wallowing in self-loathing to notice that we’re second class citizens.
There is not an "standard created" about beauty, from centuries muses have been young men and women very fit, the most famous paints and sculptures are made from men and women who today would be still considered beautiful, men are still attracted to same young women as centuries ago and not matter how many they try to sell middle age women as desirable, the same reason why cougars have to parade themselves in front of any man waiting to be picked up, David of Michelangelo is not famous because is fat and out of shape:
Women know from early age in their life that beauty matter a lot in women that is why they try to keep in shape as long as possible and companies make use of this feeling in women, jealously in one woman toward one more beautiful is something that sell and when there is not control in young women about it they will do anything in their lives to get it.
Girls don't need more self-esteem or feel-good mantras about loving themselves—what they need is a serious dose of righteous anger. But instead of teaching young women to recognize and utilize their very justifiable rage, we tell them to smile and love themselves.That is impossible without control in their homes, if Valenti wants to help these girls first she needs make primary parent accountable (overwhelming mothers) for their lack of support and bad parenting, but when today mothers are parading their daughter half naked in national TV there is not hope, this righteous anger is being tough in in education system from primary school to college, what Valenti doesn't like is that the choices these girls make are not feminists choices, make women angry and put them against men and themselves, what Valenti does not get is that if pop cultures, plastic surgery industry etc "teach" women to do something then why would be any difference with feminism? if pop culture like music and magazines teach young women to hate themselves then isn't feminist using women just like the magazines do? feminism just pick the target and women fallow, the target could be men, any political candidate the elite feminist don't like or a radio show presenter, just like magazines put women in position of what they should like and what don't, feminism use women for their own political and economic success, meaning feminism is as bad as the the outside forces they try to fight so mush, what they don't like is that they have to share the cake, they want it for them and nobody else, because they were the one that destroyed the control that was prevalent for centuries.
When I was younger I begged my parents to let me get a nose job. Like Ilse, I was taunted at school and hated my nose so thoroughly I was sure my face was an affront to the people around me. My parents, to their credit, never considered letting me have surgery. They simply assured me I was beautiful the way I was. But here’s the thing: I knew that wasn’t true. I was a smart kid, and I realized that compared to what was considered beautiful, I was absolutely awkward-looking.Anyone who reads what she writes here would believe that Valenti is not like that kind of women who goes around using their sexappeal as weapon, Valenti knows that she is good looking compared to the average feminists, she is the mainstream feminist, the pretty face on media when there is a need for feminists on TV,same thing happen with Amanda Marcotte and most recent Sandra Fluke, proving that even feminists know that beauty sells, they wont put an ugly woman in the front because would feed the stereotypical (?) perception that feminists are ugly women, even in the 70s Gloria Steinem was the face of feminism and not Andrea Dworkin or Valerie Solanas , Steinem was so good looking that she was hired by Playboy as a bunny while working are as writer:
This is the reason why Steinem is most-well known than Dworkin and other ugly and fats feminists from the same period of time, because they sell a pretty face of feminism like a magazine does, Valenti knows this and she tries to look good as mush as possible, that makes her excel among others not so good looking feminists, when Valenti knows she has the power of beauty among feminists she uses because she knows how to.
Women using their bodies for men gratification (?) is what they find wrong, beautiful women have the easiest life compared to ugly women, from school but specially during high school this is common when boys an girls star maturing, if a girl wants to be cheerleader she has to in be in shape first and look good 24/7 second, after she accomplishes that, she will have every men she wants to, the captain from the school team and never the nerd, the same happens in the rest of the world and every stage of women's life, in porn the most famous actress are the best looking of them, even though in recent years categories in porn have been increasing adding fat women AKA BBW, old women MILF and "Mature" but is the young good body who enjoy the fame and money.
To illustrated this point I will use one recent example
This year Sarah Robles, an American weightlifter who despite her good performance, lives in poverty
Weightlifter Sarah Robles is an incredible athlete, but outside the world of squats and snatches, barely anyone knows her name. And even though she's the U.S.’s best chance at an Olympic medal, she'll never get the fame or fortune that come so easily to her fellow athletes — in part because, at 5 feet, 10.5 inches and 275 pounds, she doesn't fit the ideal of thin, toned athletic beauty.
“You can get that sponsorship if you’re a super-built guy or a girl who looks good in a bikini. But not if you’re a girl who’s built like a guy,” she says. The 23-year-old from California became the highest ranked weightlifter in the country last year after placing 11th at the world championships, beating out every male and female American on the roster. On her best day, she can lift more than 568 pounds — that’s roughly five IKEA couches, 65 gallons of milk, or one large adult male lion.
But that doesn't mean much when it comes to signing the endorsement deals that could pay the bills. Track star Lolo Jones, 29, soccer player Alex Morgan, 22, and swimmer Natalie Coughlin, 29, are natural television stars with camera-friendly good looks and slim, muscular figures. But women weightlifters aren't go-tos when Sports Illustrated is looking for athletes to model body paint in the swimsuit issue. They don’t collaborate with Cole Haan on accessories lines and sit next to Anna Wintour at Fashion Week, like tennis beauty Maria Sharapova.
And male weightlifters often get their sponsorships from supplements or diet pills, because their buff, ripped bodies align with male beauty ideals. Men on diet pills want to look like weightlifters — most women would rather not.The Strongest Woman In America Lives In Poverty
In the other side we have Michelle Jenneke, an Australian hurdler who became famous after someone edited and upload a video of her while warming up before a race in Barcelona started
The video has already 16 million of views in less than a month, Jenneke is now a internet sensation,the attention was so big that she got an offer from Sex.com to pose nude in exchange of donating money for Australia Sport Commission:
Sex.com is offering a “sizable donation” to the Australian Sports Commission (ASC) if athlete Michelle Jenneke agrees to pose nude for an exclusive photo shoot...
If Jenneke accepts the offer, Sex.com said it will donate an undisclosed sum to the ASC, pending negotiations with her and her representation. The ASC is an authority within the Australian government that provides financial support and other assistance to national sporting organizations.
Rising Track Star Michelle Jenneke Draws Nude Offer from Sex.com
In the same sport as Robles is Samantha Wright a cute blonde blue-eyed petite girl, who from nowhere became famous after 4chan started sharing animated gifs of her while lifting,as someone in the comments suggested she looks like a lovechild of Hulk and Tinkerbell.
The Internet Has A Huge Crush On This Female Weightlifter
After you take a look at their pictures you can guess why the difference in their acceptance among the public:
Is unfair that Robles does not enjoy the same amount of popularity than Jenneke and Wright despite her performance but from an adverting point of view is total reasonable, you can't sell a product to women using Robles, because women don't want to look like Robles and her body does not attract male's attention.
Can you see the irony? Two unknown women in sport become internet sensations because they look good and one get an offer to pose nude for money but a more stronger woman is living in poverty and can't get sponsor because is not feminine enough and nobody know her name.
Despite the example above feminism is still trying to impose its own beauty concept of overweight bad dressed women calling themselves "fat positive", when young women see the life of beautiful women get for being cute attractive they know they have to look the best they can because being an ugly woman is the closest thing to be a man, you have to work harder to success.
Valenti as many other feminists does not want to admit that women are the first target of objectification by other women, if Robles appears wearing a bikini in a ad for a soda that are so common during the summer, women would be the first in the line to criticize her, without doubts the girl who got 40K for her surgery was being bullied by other girls, is easy for Valenti comes and portray herself as a victim of bullying when she is now the pretty face of feminism.